HOW IT WORKS
From finding someone to building a genuine correspondence — here's the whole journey.
1
Create an account
Joining is free. Browse profiles, save favorites, and get ready to write.
2
Explore profiles
Browse by state, gender, LGBTQ+ directory, or interests — or use Find Your Connection.
3
Find someone who interests you
Read their bio, interests, and story. Trust your instincts.
4
Learn how correspondence works
Incarcerated members have no internet access. Your message is printed and mailed for you.
5
Send your first message
Type your letter online and submit it. Not sure what to say? Use our Connection Guide.
6
Keep the conversation going
Include your return address so your pen pal can write back. Allow 2–4 weeks.